“Loving myself is accepting the fact that I am not perfect. That I am not the best person in the world, that I am still a flawed human being struggling in the most beautiful way to make sense of the things around me but in the eyes of others who matter enough that’s enough. I know it seems really weird that I still need that sense of validation but it is important to me to have that support and validation from the people closest to me because the loved ones I surround myself with help to shape my sense of being, and that’s what they just do simply because they truly care; and that’s important.
I think one of the things I have also learnt is that it’s also about confidence and self-awareness. If I know I can’t do something, I accept that I can’t do it and not beat myself over it anymore.
Body positivity, for instance, accepting that my body, this body that had carried a life in it, given birth to and nurtured a most beautiful child who is now 12 years old, and that it will never be the same as it used to be but that’s okay that I have learnt to embrace a lot more. I realised that it is really people who can understand your personality, your quirks, ticks, potty mouth and ideas of the world that really makes a difference rather than what you look like. Because, the truth is, nobody truly knows your ‘story’, unless you choose to tell it to them. So, let those good people into your life, the ones who will someday know your story. That is enough.”